Social engineering

Romance Scams

Emotional manipulation over time that builds trust before asking for money, gift cards, or sensitive help.

What this scam looks like

  • Someone you met online who quickly becomes emotionally close.
  • Stories of emergencies, travel problems, or medical needs requiring money.
  • Requests to keep the relationship or payments secret.

How it usually starts

  • Message on social media, dating site, or email.
  • Frequent, caring communication that moves off the platform.

Why it works

  • Loneliness and trust are exploited over weeks or months.
  • Victims feel responsible for someone they care about.

Warning signs

  • Never met in person but asks for money
  • Urgent crisis requiring gift cards or wire transfers
  • Discourages you from telling family

What to do

  • Pause before sending money or personal information.
  • Talk to someone you trust outside the relationship.
  • Verify stories through independent means.

What not to do

  • Do not send money, gift cards, or crypto to someone you have not met.
  • Do not share banking or identity documents.

What if I already responded?

  • Stop sending money and break contact.
  • Tell someone you trust — shame helps scammers.
  • Report to the platform and local authorities if appropriate.

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